Beware of Vampires

When your inner peace has been disturbed then it’s time to do your energy work. If you’re feeling drained or stuck treading water and you don’t know what to do next, then it’s time for more energy work. Energy work is housework for the soul. It needs to be done regularly. Energy work clears your conscience, revamps your energy and can help you to be more present.

Watch out for vampire behaviour. Are others draining you? Or are you draining others? If so, then it’s time to do your energy work.

Energy work involves retrieving your energy and returning unwanted energy to the sender on a regular basis. You’ll be training your energy to stay in your body and in present time. In addition, and unfortunately because most people don’t do their energy work, you will need to train the sender’s energy to stay where it belongs. With the sender.

The Return to Sender (RTS) Process and the Retrieval Process work hand in hand. Here’s how to do it:

Exercise for Retrieving Your Energy

1. Sit quietly.
2. Breathe gently.
3. Where have you sent your power? Have you sent it on a negative or destructive mission to a person, place, situation or thing?
4. Breathe in and take back your energy. Command your power to come back into your body and into present time.
5. Repeat when required.

Exercise for Returning Energy to Sender

1. Sit quietly.
2. Breathe gently.
3. Who has sent negative, destructive or unwanted energy to you?
4. Breathe out and gently return the energy to the sender. Always return unwanted energy without malice. Malice is a destructive mission whereas gentleness is a constructive mission on your part.
5. Repeat when required.

Energy that has been sent to you on a negative or destructive mission does not belong to you. It needs to be sent back to the sender. Carrying other people’s energy is a burden that is not yours to carry. It drains your power and your ability to be present.

Sending your energy on negative or destructive missions is draining. Your power leaks out of your body and affects your ability to be present when you send it on negative missions.

Watch out for vampire behaviour. Are others draining you? Or are you draining others? Vampire behaviour depletes your power and affects your ability to function effectively. Energy received from a vampire mission must be sent back to the sender. Energy sent on a vampire mission needs to be recalled by the sender.

Next time you don’t know what to do next, do your energy work and then you will know what to do. Ideas will start to flow. When you feel ill at ease, do your energy work. It will give you a sense of relief. Before you say or do anything important or drastic, pause quietly and do your energy work.

How to Harness Your Personal Power

Whenever I feel drained, weighed down, overwhelmed, ill at ease or my inner peace has been disturbed, then I know it’s time to harness my power.

Here’s how to do it:

Firstly, I visualise my power as a neutral source of energy. It remains in neutral until I send it on a destructive mission or a constructive mission. Energetic missions can take the form of destructive or constructive thoughts, words, emotions and behaviour.

Secondly, I need to retrieve my energy if I’ve sent it on a destructive mission. Destructive missions may be energy I’ve sent to a person, place, situation or event in the form of destructive thoughts, words, emotions and behaviour. To retrieve my energy, I breathe in as I visualise my energy coming back to me, refuelling my body, mind and emotions. I find that I need to repeat the Retrieval Process until I’ve trained my energy to stay where it needs to be. In my body, my mind and emotions.

Then thirdly, and this I believe is the part that many have been missing when they fail to regain their power. I call it the the Return to Sender Process or RTS Process. I need to RTS all the energy that has been sent to me on a destructive mission. Energy sent to me on a destructive mission by others may take the form of destructive thoughts, words, emotions and behaviour. To send back unwanted energy, I breathe out as I visualise the energy leaving my body, mind and emotions and returning to the sender. As a constructive use of energy, I need to send the energy back with thoughts of kindness. Constructive energy can help to neutralise destructive energy. I repeat the Return to Sender Process until I’ve trained the sender’s energy to remain with the sender.

Retrieving your energy is not enough. You have to RTS it.

Lastly, I aim to send my energy on constructive missions. I plug myself into the power of constructive thoughts, words, emotions and behaviours. Constructive missions may be energy I’ve sent to a person, place, situation or event in the form of constructive thoughts, words, emotions and behaviour.

Fixations with people, places and events in the past and the present and obsessions about the future can be draining. It takes a lot of personal energy to send my life force on a destructive mission. It takes even more to support and maintain that position. Nobody wins when energy is sent on a destructive mission. Chaos, stress and ill health are too often the result, whereas a constructive mission can enhance the wellbeing of the sender and the receiver. A constructive mission refuels the energy of the sender and the receiver. The life force increases, spirits return to flourish and so both parties win. A constructive mission has the potential to heal, empower, or transform an attitude, situation, personal issue or any area of life that you wish to target. It creates a win-win for everyone.

My personal power can be harnessed with greater ease when retrieve my energy, and I send back energy that is not mine to keep, and I decide to be more constructive and less destructive towards myself and others.

Your Personal Epiphany and How to Have One

Everyone needs a personal epiphany. Every now and then. How long has it been since your last one? Too long? Ah-ha moments can make you feel better. They’re good for your mental and emotional health. If you want to experience a personal epiphany, then you’ll need to start asking the big questions. You know. The ones that start with W. The questions that make you squirm when you’ve been trying so hard to stay comfortable.

The problem is, the W questions become a problem if you keep ignoring them. Remember when your mother used to ask you to take out the garbage, and you would put off doing it? Remember how she had to nag you to do it? The same thing happens when you avoid asking the big questions. Here’s the thing. They will never go away. No matter how hard you try. And this creates another problem. All that energy you have to use to hold the questions at bay? That’s why you feel drained and unproductive. That’s why you’ve lost your drive. And your nerve. It’s why others are overtaking you. Why they are getting ahead. And you’re not. Unless…You start asking the following:

Who am I?

What is my purpose?

Why am I here?

You can take control by asking the big questions before it’s too late. Of course asking will bring change into your life. And if you’re not much of an expert at managing change, then you’re going to avoid asking the big questions. But look. I’ve made something for you. If you’re not sure what happens when you start asking questions about life, and you prefer to know what to expect, then check out the infographic I’ve put together for you:

It’s a universal quest to ask life’s big questions.

You see. That’s not so hard at all. It’s a universal quest to ask life’s big questions. Countless others have been there before. You’ll be in good company. I can guarantee it.

Your Personal Empowerment Theory and Why You May Need to Realise It

Everyone has a personal theory about life. Although many don’t know what it is. They’re not aware of their personal empowerment theory and how it actually sabotages them. Or how it creates success. Many clients come to me anxious, overwhelmed and miserable. Life feels beyond their control. But it isn’t. Feeling out of control is an indication that we need to take more control.

Make the most of your life. Live it like it’s the only one you will ever have.

You can take control again by identifying a personal empowerment theory about who you are, your purpose and potential. Your personal empowerment theory influences the circumstances in your life and how well you manage it. It influences your thoughts, words, feelings and actions. Realising your theory can help you to answer the big questions.

• Who am I?
• Why was I born?
• What is the meaning of life?
• Is there more meaning to life than this?
• What am I meant to do with my life?
• What is my purpose?
• Do I have a purpose?
• What is my potential?
• Do I have potential?
• How do I realise my potential?

When you realise your theory, you put yourself back in the driver’s seat. In charge. As the author of your life. Once you know your personal empowerment theory about life, you will not only be back and in control, but you will be able to identify your purpose and who you are. So you can clarify your highest potential.

Once you’ve defined your theory then you can gain access to an unlimited source of wisdom that you can call on for the rest of your life.

So that you can:

• realise who you are
• realise why you were born
• realise the meaning of life
• realise what you can do with your life
• realise your purpose
• realise your potential
• design your life to reflect your truth

I like to think that I don’t tell others what to do and most of the time that’s true. But not if I feel it can be of some help. So here it is. This is what you need to do:

You need to realise your personal empowerment theory and how it affects your success and failure. You need to find out who you are. You need to identify your purpose so that you can make the most of your life. Live it like it’s the only one you have.

A Personal or Spiritual Crisis?

There is a difference between an identity crisis and a spiritual crisis. An identity crisis involves your personality. It manifests as confusion about the roles that you play in life, concern about approval from others and your image,  issues of self esteem and self sabotage.

A spiritual crisis breaks into your soul.

Everything in your physical, emotional and mental worlds lose their appeal for you.

When you begin to reject the physical, emotional and mental gifts from spirit in favour of a pure and contemplative connection with the Divine then you know you are on the brink of the dark night of the soul. Here’s what you can expect.

How do I develop self-awareness so that I follow my inner guidance?

Archetypes are tools that can be used to develop self-awareness. Archetypes are universal patterns of behaviour that manifest as roles that we play.  According to Caroline Myss (2001) we all share four roles. They are the Child, Victim, Prostitute and Saboteur. These roles can influence our mindset. Our mindset can influence the roles we play. We slip in and out of a them without thinking, without self-awareness.

Archetypes can indicate your challenges and solutions. Image by Benno Poeder

Therefore, every role we play, the thoughts we have, the emotions we experience, the words that we speak and the actions that we take may be productive or unproductive. How well we play our roles may depend on the awareness of our own mindset and the impact that a productive or unproductive mindset can have on the world around us. Here are the four mindsets we need to be aware of if we want to develop self-awareness.

Child

Challenge: Responsible vs Irresponsible

A productive Child mindset knows when to be serious and when to lighten up. To do this we can:

• Enjoy ourselves rather than being serious all the time
• Be resilient rather than rigid
• Be strong enough to learn from experience rather than avoiding the issue
• Be dependable rather than unreliable

Victim

Challenge: Protect vs Endanger

A productive Victim mindset knows when to be pro-active and when to be vulnerable. To do this we can:

• Set and maintain our personal boundaries rather than being used.
• Stand-up for ourselves rather than let ourselves down.
• Move on rather than dwell too long in self-pity
• Safeguard rather than jeopardise ourselves or others

Prostitute

Challenge: Ethical vs Unethical

A productive Prostitute mindset knows when to compromise and when to stand firm. To do this we can:

• Be loyal to our values rather than compromising our integrity
• Negotiate a win/win deal for all rather than selling out ourselves or others
• Be true to ourselves and others rather than losing trust
• Maintain our personal honour rather than lose our dignity

Saboteur

Challenge: Constructive vs Destructive

A productive Saboteur mindset knows when to listen to the critics (or the inner critic) and when to listen to inner guidance. To do this we can:

• Be objective rather than biased
• Supervise our thoughts, words and actions rather than overlook them
• Be guided by our conscience rather than shutting it down
• Be productive rather than unproductive or counterproductive.

How do we know if the voice in our head is the inner critic or the inner guide? We need to ask: Is what I am about to say or do responsible or irresponsible? Will it protect or endanger myself or others? Is it ethical or unethical? Is it constructive or destructive? We can develop and improve our self-awareness by asking these four simple questions.

 

Reference

Myss, C 2001, Sacred contracts: Awakening your divine potential, Harmony Books, New York.

It’s Your Call to Respond to Your Calling

There are preliminary steps you need to take before you can follow your calling. This is why many people don’t respond to it. Not because they are afraid of their calling but because they don’t know where to start. They’re overwhelmed by it. Or they don’t have a yearning for it because they don’t have the energy for it.

It’s up to you to prepare yourself to respond to your call

But here’s the thing. No one is getting any younger. No one. Not one person on earth. The truth is, time is short. Your time to respond to your calling is running out. Most of the time you waste time thinking and doing things that are irrelevant or even detrimental to your mental and emotional health.

You avoid taking responsibility or you take on too much. You play the victim or you prey on others. You sell your soul to the highest bidder. You sell out others. They sell you out. You sabotage yourself. You sabotage others. They sabotage you. You damage your soul and deplete your spirit. This is bad for your body. Stress and tension create anxiety and that can lead to depression. It’s a difficult cycle to break.

How can you respond to your calling when you hardly have the energy to drag yourself to work? Or worse, you don’t have the energy to get up in the morning.

You have to prepare yourself so that your mind and emotions are ready to embrace your calling. You have to be ready to prepare yourself. You have to be in a state that is ready to respond.

So how do you prepare for your calling?

One of the first things to do is to clear the air in your relationships. Now is the time to act. Clearing the air in your relationships doesn’t mean that these people will be out of your life. Not unless you want it that way. It’s your call. Clear the air so that you can be free to be who you need to be. Free to respond to your calling.