Fear is debilitating. It has the potential to break our spirit. Imagine putting on a pair of glasses that could make the invisible visible. These glasses would allow you to see where your spirit is located. Is it trapped in the past? Is it at home in the present? Is it getting ahead of itself by running into the future? Is it scattered across time or is it centered in the moment? Where is it? Where are your thoughts? What are your regrets? What do you yearn for?
It is not easy to liberate our spirit if our energy, attention and focus is everywhere else but in our bodies and in present time. With our spirit tied up elsewhere, we stay stuck, blocked and trapped, and unable to move forward with life. We become trapped in an invisible cell of our own making as we wander around in circles trying to catch up with ourselves, but going nowhere, we ask, ‘Why am I stuck? Why can’t I move forward with my life?’
When I am stuck, it’s the perfect trigger for me. I know it means I’m not grounded or centered. As a yoga practitioner for 40 years, when I realise I’m stuck, the first thing I do is stand on my head. The supported head stand, Salamba Sirsasana, brings me back into balance. It’s works for me, but not everyone can stand on their head. And many of my clients or students can’t do it either. I had to come up with a practical solution for me, and for them.
As a result of not always being in the right place or the best place to stand on my head to solve the problem of being stuck or unable to move forward, I developed a process I called Liberate the Spirit Profile Process.
I have taught thousands of clients and students to use this process, so there is a good chance you may be familiar with it or one of it’s many hybrid versions.
I’ve include 9 of 10 steps involved in the process below. For the full, detailed profile process, that is, Step 10, you can purchase a copy of the ebook or paperback: A Question of Balance – Colour, Energy and Healing with Chakras here. It captures the power of your personality archetypes and channels the flow of your energy, that is, your thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, intuition, emotions, feelings, creativity through your chakras in order to set your spirit free in the physical world.
When I am stuck I know that I am quite literally out of my body. There are many times when it is simply not feasible to stand on my head. If I can’t stand on my head, then I ask: What is holding me back from being present, true to me and fully alive? Here are 5 of my personal insights into why we get stuck. They are the 5 barriers that keep us static instead of being dynamic.
- I get stuck if I sit on the fence and do nothing
- If I deny the past and avoid feelings that need to be felt
- If I worry excessively about the future
- When I am overly concerned about what others think
- When the choices I make are influenced by my fears, such as anger, jealousy, competitiveness, bitterness, grief, a desire to maintain control, lack of forgiveness of self or others, blame, judgment of self and others, moral or spiritual superiority and discrimination.
The list of fears is endless. From my experience with clients and students, these 5 barriers appear to be common. These barriers lead me to ask more questions: ‘What can I do to liberate my spirit? How do I remove the blocks, and the chains that are holding me back from moving forward and reaching my potential?’
When I work with clients and students, Liberate the Spirit is a 10 step process where we:
- Identify the fears or experiences
- Choose one to work with
- Face the fear
- Own the experience
- Activate choice
- Give the experience meaning
- Create a story with Archetypes
- Rewrite the Scripts
- Implement change
- Create Liberate Your Spirit Profile
Taking a good hard look at ourselves and our circumstances takes courage. It’s a sacred process. When we begin the process of introspection and self-understanding, it’s a good idea to find a like-minded soul companion with whom you can share experiences and talk about these matters if the need arises. Working with a professional soul purpose facilitator or spiritual mentor will complete your experience.
You can use the following as a guideline to help you move on through your fears, break free, so that you move closer to being the best that you can be.
1. Identify Your Fears
Identify the fears that may have influenced your perceptions, such as anger, jealousy, guilt or even:
- Fear of rejection or a need for recognition from society, family, friends or colleagues.
- Fear of success or failure. Do you have what it takes if you fail or if you succeed? Can you turn around, face others and move on, even if you don’t succeed? Can you trust yourself to handle the power that success brings with enough personal responsibility, awareness of your personal boundaries and integrity?
- Fear of abandonment. Are you afraid of being left alone if you don’t live up to certain expectations?
- Fear of betrayal and inability to commit. Are you afraid you’ll appear to disappoint others or let them down?
- Fear of humiliation, shame and intimacy. Are you afraid to open your heart and accept forgiveness from yourself or others?
- Fear of injustice and powerlessness. Do you consider yourself inferior or prey for others? Or do you take advantage of others?
2. Choose One Fear to Work With
Choose one fear at a time to work with. You may find that you have written a long list of fears. If you’re being honest with yourself, this will probably be the case, and that’s okay. You’d be the odd one out if you didn’t. Just be sure to take one fear at a time. Work with each one at your own pace, without being too easy on yourself or indeed the opposite where you push yourself too far or too soon. When you are ready, move on and address the next fear on your list.
3. Face the Fear
Recount the experience or the fear that keeps you on hold or dwelling on the past.
Write it down.
- What are you afraid of?
- Where did the fear come from?
- Where did you learn this?
- How does it serve you?
- How does it continue to serve you?
- How did it serve you back then?
The information on your fears and your response to those fears are held within the core of your body. Begin to release and integrate the instinctual response to the fear by asking:
How does this fear hold me captive? How does it activate or animate me?
- Do I want to run and hide?
- Does it make me angry or want to cry?
- Am I paralysed by this fear?
- Am I confused by this fear?
- Am I frustrated by this fear?
- Am I consumed by this fear?
- Am I overwhelmed by this fear?
4. Own the Experience
See the experience as your need to come into your strength as an individual. Be firm but kind with yourself. Give yourself permission, time and space to go through the motion of emotions.
- Develop the strength and resources to enable you to meet any similar threats in the future.
- Build your self-esteem by making the commitment to honour yourself.
- Work on shame or issues of humiliation: Do you need to find someone qualified a counsellor or psychologist to help you with this?
- Practice risk taking: Step by step and in bite sized chunks you can do something a little different or out of the ordinary. Working with a life coach is the perfect solution.
- Improve communication skills: For example, do you need to take a course in public speaking or effective interpersonal relationship skills?
- Build physical strength and flexibility: Do you need to go back to the gym, take up yoga or start walking regularly?
- Use body work therapy to help shift your energy. Try Shiatsu, Rosen Method, Orthobionomy or Remedial Massage.
- Develop personal financial management or business skills if financial survival is an issue. Do what you need to do to put yourself into a financially controlled state of mind. Visit a business or financial management consultant for advice. Set yourself a budget and stick to it.
5. Activate Your Power of Choice
Make a conscious decision to choose your attitude and your response to your fear or the situation. Your experiences are determined by your personal and subjective perceptions of the situation or event.
- Own the experience by taking responsibility for your role in it, and the consequences.
- Be proactive. Use the energy that the fear generates in you to provide the impetus you need to move on and get over this situation. Use the energy constructively, rather than destructively.
- How can you see the situation differently?
6. Give Your Experience Meaning
Our spirit urges our soul to grow, to strengthen our character and gain some kind of mastery or skill, but we don’t always realise this until we look back on the situation later.
Fear is a message for us. We need to heed fear in order to master it by acknowledging its presence. It then becomes an ally alerting us to look after ourselves. Fear is a belief that something dreadful might occur. Faith gained from having faced our fears can replace unreasonable fear, making room for self-acceptance, love and forgiveness to develop.
- If you lack faith in yourself or others, then work on this issue with someone qualified to do so.
- Imagine that you are a witness to the event. Imagine that you are watching yourself and the situation like a play in a theatre.
- Try to see yourself and the situation from your soul’s need to learn and grow in consciousness and your spirit’s need for liberation and freedom from illusion. This helps to reveal the higher purpose.
7. Write Stories with Archetypes
Writing our story using the Archetype Profile is an empowering process. You can use the following process to write them so that your self-understanding expands into deeper stages of personal and spiritual development. I find that it helps me to put my experiences into a context that can add meaning to my challenges.
It will also help you to get a feel for the bigger picture and the grand themes of your life. You’ll find deeper meaning and a higher purpose in your fears when you write about them. It enables you to look at your life, situations and events from a more empowering, positive, educational and loving perspective.
The exercise that follows is a general guideline to help you develop your ability to see your own life from a higher perspective. You will gain some powerful, archetypal information on your life by answering the questions that follow. Like a play on the stage, with a script, a plot, and all the necessary characters, it will help you to set the scenes and describe the landscape that surrounds the drama. You will identify the roles that you, and others, are playing in your drama. You can observe yourself, others and your circumstances more truthfully when you view life as a theatre, where everyone is an actor in the play.
Shakespeare explained this beautifully:
“All the world’s a stage
And all the men and women
They have their exits
and their entrances
And one man in his time
plays many parts.” 
Understanding the stories contained within your archetypes gives you the chance to break free so that your life can move beyond static and into dynamic. Here’s how to do that.
Choose as many archetypes from the following list to help you describe your challenge, problem or situation.
- Which archetype describes you? Although they are not on the table below, there are four archetypes shared by everyone that I find incredibly powerful. They were first developed by Caroline Myss. They are the Child, Victim, Prostitute and Saboteur.
- Which one describes how you feel about your challenge or problem?
- Which archetypes describe the other people involved?
- Which archetypes do you think describe what’s standing in the way of forgiveness, that is, forgiving the other person and the other person forgiving you?
- Which one describes a desired outcome?
- Which archetype do you think or feel could help you to heal the situation?
- Which archetype describes the lesson or what you think you are challenged to learn?
- Which archetype describes the gift in your situation, circumstance or event?
|List of Archetypes|
Next, explore both sides of your archetypal story.
- For each archetype you have chosen, make a list of at least six negative qualities.
- Then for each archetype you have chosen, make a positive list of at least six qualities to help you find more balance and a clearer perspective.
- If you are feeling adventurous, you might like to link each of the six negative associations together to form a sentence so that you gain some insights into that side of the story. Link each of the six positive associations to form another sentence for insights there.
Think about your story with understanding, love and compassion for yourself and others. Give yourself the time and space to feel your feelings. When I focus on what is right, and acknowledge what is wrong, and accept what I can’t change, but change what I can, then
I can look back in appreciation, knowing that being stuck has served to strengthen and refine my character.
It would be rare to find someone who did not want to understand their life or the people around them. Archetypes are potent tools that can be used in the course of your personal and spiritual development. If you need extra help, then you can improve your stories when you rewrite the scripts as follows.
8. Rewrite the Scripts
Verbal metaphors are images that have been imprinted onto the pages of your mind through the spoken word. After being exposed to them repetitively, especially during your early years, it means they will undoubtedly rule your approach to life now, affecting how you think, feel and behave. They’ve become mantras or affirmations that you have inherited.
Mantras and affirmations influence the state of your mind, your emotions and physical world. Words create and affirm images that have the power to make you or break you. They too, have the power to “cast spells” over the way you think of yourself, others, your health and your circumstances. Words also have the power to heal.
Recalling and listing all of the phrases or sayings, both positive and negative, that you have used or heard repeatedly in your childhood is one way to make a new spell or break an unwanted one. Doing this is one practical step you can take to change your attitude to your health, relationships, money and work. Try to imagine the literal outcome of your metaphors as you record them.
Negative metaphors sound like this:
- “I’m fed up with this” or “I’ve had enough of this” or “I’m full of it”. With a lot of reference to digestion and talk about food, problems and issues with food and digestive disturbances would be encouraged or inevitable.
- “I’m sick and tired of this” would eventually affect your health and vitality, inviting exhaustion, misery and chronic fatigue.
- “You poor thing!” At best, this phrase would encourage a poor or miserable attitude to life. At worst, it would keep you poverty stricken.
- “Life is what you make it”, helps you to play the leading role in your life.
- “There’s no time like the present.” More often than not, it takes more energy thinking “I must do such and such”, than it actually does to just do it. Why put it off until later if you can do it right now, or at least today?
- “Chin up.” Embrace your strengths, while acknowledging your weaknesses, and get on with it.
- “Dare to be different.” Have the courage to be independently motivated.
- “Fly by the seat of your pants.” Give it a go and take that risk.
- Positive metaphors sound like this:
- Make two lists, a permanent record of your positive and negative inherited verbal metaphors.
- Then add any new and useful metaphors as you come across them.
- Continue to add more metaphors with their possible translations as you recall them, or create new ones.
- Then like a parcel that has been delivered to your door that you didn’t order, say “thanks, but no thanks”.
- Withdraw your conscious thoughts, your life force and your power from the metaphors that no longer serve you.
- From this point on, invest your energy and attention in the metaphors that do.
9. Implement Change
Creating change is not always easy. Sometimes it seems that the entire universe is against us. Nature is a commanding force. It makes sense to be aware of its power so that we can work with it instead of against it.
We are governed by the laws of nature. Crops are planted in cycles according to the weather. Fishing and surfing is done according to the tides that are influenced by the moon. Days and nights are influenced by the movement of the sun and the moon.
Astrology is a tool that uses the planets to represent unconscious energetic forces that affect what goes on in the world. Astrologers suggest that the moon represents the emotions and how we feel, just as the sun represents the ego and our personality. While the impact of the sun is more obvious as the moon goes through its phases, it subtly influences the tidal movement of the ocean.
The human body is made up of approximately 75% water. Because the moon has an impact on the sea and the movement of the tides, I often wonder why it wouldn’t it influence our bodies or even the rest of the natural environment?
If we learn to work with the cycles of the sun and moon, we can learn to co-create with nature. We can tap into their extra support for creating the changes we want to make. The sun sign of the zodiac in which the moon is located, and the phase of the lunar cycle, brings energies that affect behaviour and fields of activity. By observing the phases of the lunar cycle and the Moon’s movement through each zodiac sun sign, we can exist and co-create more harmoniously with our surroundings and with others.
The four week cycle of the moon brings four phases; each phase is more suited to different degrees of human behaviour. The sun sign placement within those phases allows for enhanced expression of certain types of activities.
The following is one way we can work with the sun and moon cycles for co-creation and harmony. You can also refer to an astrological ephemeris or a good calendar for exact dates on the phases of the moon in this current year.
How to be a Co-Creator
Begin your project or lifestyle changes on the appearance of any new moon, especially the new moon during spring time, which is a good time for new beginnings. Work with the seasons. Be aware that spring and summer are peak times for planting long term goals. Autumn works well for metaphorically shaking off the leaves and letting go of things that are no longer useful. Although winter can be barren, short term goals can be achieved. Like land used for planting crops, long term goals may need time to rest, picking up the pace in the spring once again.
- The new moon or the first quarter: during this phase new ideas or new directions become apparent. There is energy available for initiation and creative action here. This is a doing phase where you have plenty of personal energy to make things happen.
- The new moon is followed by the second quarter waxing phase. During this time, you can persevere with plans and expand on their reality. This is a time of high productivity as your original plan expands and manifests.
- You move into a full moon at the third quarter phase. At this time, be prepared for sudden insights, clarity or reactions from others that either intensifies the changes you’ve initiated, or that bring about the required transformation. This is when you question your direction and are more likely to be concerned about the viewpoints of others. Impulses are strong, and emotions are touchy on the full moon itself and a day either side.
- The final fourth quarter waning phase of the moon. This is the last stage, where readjustment and refinement is necessary. This is a time for self-examination, reflection of motives, dealing with the consequences of your actions and the choices you have made
Once you work through these exercises you should feel more balanced. They will help to put some distance between you and the situation that is causing you to feel stuck. You’ll find it easier to move from static to dynamic.
Every challenge is designed to liberate your spirit.
 William Shakespeare: All the world’s a stage, As You Like It 2/7