Believer or Not

Sages, mystics and mental health experts have suggested that forgiveness is good for you. A lack of forgiveness creates a psychological burden that wears down your emotional and mental health. Eventually, this type of ongoing stress can have adverse effects on your physical body. Stress has been recognised as a key factor that contributes to sickness and pain. Forgiveness helps you to heal, to move on and start anew. Forgiveness is not always easy, but there is even more to it if you are not an atheist.

Forgiveness is something you do for you by Gail Goodwin

Forgiveness is something you do for you

If you’re a non-believer, then your process of forgiveness is confined to forgiving others, forgiving yourself and seeking forgiveness from others.  If you are believer, you have to forgive others for what they have done or not done. You have to forgive you for what you have done or not done. You hope or pray or ask that others will forgive you for what you have done or not done. But what happens if the situation that calls for forgiveness is “all a part of God’s Plan?”

You have more work to do.

You have to ask your God to forgive you. The Christian version of God will forgive you for what you have done wrong if you confess to your misdeeds and then you atone for them. Beyond seeking atonement from your God, and regardless of your version, if you are a believer, you can’t afford to ignore the fact that you have to forgive your God too. Under God’s Plan, you have been wronged and now you need to forgive God for letting it happen.

If you are a believer, and you want to heal, then your process of forgiveness will involve:

  1. Forgiving others
  2. Forgiving your self
  3. Asking others for their forgiveness
  4. Asking your God to forgive you
  5. Forgiving your God for what happened

If you are a non-believer, and you want to heal, then your process of forgiveness will involve:

  1. Forgiving others
  2. Forgiving your self
  3. Asking others for their forgiveness

Believer or non-believer, what happens when forgiveness along these lines is simply not possible? For believers and non-believers, the challenge of forgiveness may be to forgive yourself for not being able to forgive. Added to this, for believers, the challenge may be to ask your God to forgive you for your inability to forgive yourself and others, and further, to accept the yes or no response.

Forgiveness is something you do for you. You can’t control your God. You can’t control what others do. But you can change your response to situations that are not within your sphere of influence.

If you can’t forgive others, and you can’t forgive your God, and you can’t elicit forgiveness from others for what you did, and your God won’t forgive you either, then use the lack of forgiveness as an urgent reminder to forgive you. If genuine self-forgiveness is achieved, then your sense of self-approval and self-acceptance will increase. Seeking forgiveness from others, including your God, will be less important to you. Your inability to forgive others, including your God, will trouble you less. The stress from these factors is reduced, and so is your physical, emotional and mental pain.

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About gailgoodwin

As an author, trainer and mentor, my purpose is to inspire vision, creativity and productivity in the business of life and the life of your business.
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