There are an infinite number of reasons why it is so hard to let go and surrender. Fear is one of the reasons why you struggle to let go of people, places or things that no longer serve you, but fear is not that simple. You have to name your fear, and when you do, you capture your fear. You have to name your fear if you want to tame it. Rather than your fear controlling you, when your fear has been tamed, you have more control over it.
There are many types of fear. Fear of success. Fear of failure. Fear of responsibility. Fear of commitment. Fear of intimacy. Fear of too much power. Fear of having no power. Everyone has a list of fears.
You struggle to let go because you have a fear of surrender. You fear surrender because the act of surrender might put you in a position where you are not in control of the outcome. But this is only half the picture. You are still in control of the outcome when you surrender. When you surrender, you are saying,
“I am now going to be in control of not being in control of the outcome.”
When the act of surrender is a conscious one, you are in control. When you are conscious of your decision to surrender you put yourself into a state of paradox. You are simultaneously at your most controlling, and your least controlling. When you are conscious of what you do and why you do it, you increase your chances of being in control of an uncontrollable outcome.