Have you got the guts to do what you don’t love? Another lecture in tough love

Do you have the guts to live a life with soul? It’s easy to follow your heart and do what you love. But do you have the guts to do what you don’t love?

Have you got the guts to be the bad cop? Have you got the guts to be unpopular? Have you got the guts to be invisible? Do you have the guts to do what others don’t or won’t or can’t? Day after day, week after week, and maybe even year after year?

Don’t fall into the trap of believing that if or when you have to do what you don’t love that you’ve been overcome by a dark night of the soul. No. You are not in a dark night. You’re not ready. You’re spiritual bypassing. You’re trapped in a cycle of perpetual positivity. Casting shadows instead of owning them.  Stop. Do you really think that a life with soul will let you live the high life for the rest of your life? No. A soulful life is a balanced life. While spiritual bypassing may be fine for zombies, a life without ups and downs signals death for those with a soul.

A life with soul is a balanced life

Are you busy casting shadows instead of owning them?


Does your life have soul? Will you dare to go where others dare not? It’s easier to keep bypassing. It’s safe. It’s secure. It’s expected. But it’s lopsided. And overbearing.

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Have You Got What It Takes? A Lecture In Tough Love

Have you got what it takes to do what you really want? If you really wanted what you say you want then you would do what it takes to make it happen. Yes. You would. But you don’t. So your lack of action demonstrates your real desire, which is to do nothing, to maintain the status quo. You would rather spend your time and energy yearning and pining and hoping and wishing and whining rather than actually doing what you need to do to bring your real dream to fruition.

Have you got what it takes to do what you say you want?

Tell someone who cares about your excuses. You have three chances to repeat the same old story.

When your desire to achieve your dream outweighs your desire for life to remain the same then you will have what you want. You either want it or you don’t. Yes or no. The space in between yes and no is maybe or maybe not. You know where you are. You know what you need to do. So do it. Now. Tell someone who cares about your excuses. You have three chances to repeat the same old story.




After that, you may as well turn into a zombie because everyone else has zoned out of your story.

Tell yourself about your successes. Tell yourself how you did it. Tell yourself how well you it worked for you. Wouldn’t you rather hear more about your triumphs and less about your defeats? Only other vampires have the time or energy for vampire behaviour.

Don’t waste your resources. Don’t waste your time, energy, space and money chasing people, places and things that you don’t really want. Stop yearning like a lovesick damsel. It’s pretentious and draining. Think hard about what you really and truly want. Then do what you need to do to get it. If you can’t, then maybe you need to forget it.

Or rethink it.

There are two types of power you can use to fuel your desires. You have extrinsic power and intrinsic power available. All you need to do is tap into it.

Extrinsic Power

Archetypes represent external power. You can tap into this power when you know the strengths and weaknesses of your personal archetypes. Your twelve archetypes are your external resource of power.

Intrinsic Power

Chakras represent internal power. You can tap into this power when you know how to balance your overactive and underactive chakras. Your seven chakras are your internal resource of power.

If you believe you can’t be powerful then you need to recalibrate your self-belief so that it aligns with your powerful self instead of your pitiful self. Thoughts are powerful. You know this. Beliefs are powerful. Behaviour is even more powerful. Your beliefs and your thoughts drive your behaviour. Your behaviour drives your thoughts and beliefs. Change your beliefs to change your thinking to change your behaviour. Change your behaviour to change your thinking to change your beliefs. When you believe you are powerful, you will be, and then you will have what you want.

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Your Brilliant Career Has Gone Bung and What To Do About It

Your brilliant career has gone bung.

Or it’s on the way out.

So what’s next?

It’s time to rework it.

your brilliant career has gone bung by gail goodwin

Even when circumstances force you to change your career, you still have a choice. Take control. Make a plan.


There are 6 questions you should ask:

  1. What am I made of?
  2. What is driving me?
  3. What can I do?
  4. What else would I like to do?
  5. How do I get there?
  6. What is stopping me?

When you find answers, then you’re on your way.

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Use the Chakra Model to Develop Discernment and Visionary Ability

Some individuals are born with reliable gut instincts; others are highly sensitive or possess amazingly accurate intuition, while many individuals have to master the art of sound judgement in order to survive and thrive in the world. If you know how to make sound judgments then you can be discerning. Discernment is the ability to develop and fine tune your visionary and intuitive abilities through the trials, errors and pitfalls of life. This is where failure is useful but not very pleasant. It offers incredibly accurate feedback about what not to do next time.

A Question of Balance - Colour Energy and Healing with Chakras

When you understand the connection between your mind, emotions and body then your path to life balance and spiritual fulfilment becomes clear.

Discernment comes from a balance of intellectual reasoning combined with your intuition and gut instincts. Both the left and right brains are activated when you are discerning, but you can also engage more of yourself than just your brain in this process. You can use the chakras as tools to help you develop your capacity to be more discerning. Discernment is your ability to perceive what is true, rather than being seduced by illusions and false impressions. It is your ability to perceive wisdom from manipulation.

When you are uncertain or suspicious about a person or a situation, then how do you discern truth from illusion? What do you need to look for? Imagine you are on a search for guidance and direction, say from a spiritual healer or teacher. How do you know a genuine healer? How do you recognize a good teacher when you see one? When the situation calls for discernment, there are seven chakra benchmarks to look for that will help you to assess their worth. These benchmarks can also be applied when you need to discern the quality or truth of new information being presented to you. Always follow what feels right and true for you at the time.

  1. Focus on your first chakra at the base of your spine. This is your centre of earthly survival power. Is the information, teacher or healer consistent, positive and helpful? Is the information, healer or teacher down-to-earth or vague and ungrounded?
  2. Focus on your second chakra below your navel. This is your centre of relationship power. Does the information, teacher or healer have healthy boundaries? Are you encouraged to be independent, empowered and whole? Or are you being asked to conform with, or depend on, the healer, the information or the teaching?
  3. Focus on the third chakra at your solar plexus. This is the centre of your instinctive power. Does your gut register this information, teacher or healer as congruent? Is this a person of integrity?
  4. Focus on your fourth chakra at the heart. This is where your emotional power resides. Does the information, the teacher or healer uplift you? Is your heart stirred with a sense of truth?
  5. Focus on the fifth chakra at the throat. This is your centre of free will. Are you being asked to surrender your power to choose for yourself? Are you accepting the information presented without question?
  6. Focus on your sixth chakra in the middle of your brow. This is your intellectual power. Does the information broaden your awareness and understanding of yourself? If the information, teacher or healer is personally confronting, does it lead you to face reality?
  7. Focus on the seventh chakra at the crown of your head. This is your centre of spiritual power. Does the information, teacher or healer provide you with a path for healing or growth, or does it undermine you?

If you believe all that you are told, shown or read without question or research, then you are susceptible to victimisation. You may be physically, emotionally, mentally and even psychically vulnerable and open to manipulation.

By asking these questions with the help of your chakras, you can tap into the infinite source of your own inner wisdom. From there you will strengthen your ability to discern truth from illusion. Discernment helps you to face your fears. It will hold you in good stead when you are surrounded by confusion and indecision. You are meant to be a good judge of character and situations. Discernment helps you to face the realities of life. It outwits many disappointments and falsehoods.

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What is My Purpose?

Until I defined my values, I did not know my life’s purpose. I thought I knew my purpose, but I learned that life’s purpose is not a job. Life’s purpose is to be, not to do.

Choose your values. Choose your purpose. Manifest your life purpose.

Life’s purpose is not a job. Life’s purpose is to be, not to do.

I watched as life’s purpose chose others but not me. I was beginning to think there was something wrong with me. Life’s purpose had not yet chosen me. Why not? Was I not good enough? Was I too young? Not smart enough? Was my ego too big or too small? By the time I reached mid-forties, I realised that I could choose my life’s purpose. I could decide what it would be. I claimed my life purpose because it had not claimed me.

I relied on my values to help me do it. What I valued most became my life purpose. I valued honesty, so I decided that is my purpose. I would be honest. I valued honour, so I decided that honour is my purpose. I would be honourable. I valued creativity, so I made creativity my purpose. I would be creative.

Where before I thought I had no purpose, now I had so many I started to feel overwhelmed. I felt compelled to demonstrate my values but I was immobilised by them until I began to apply one value at a time to each situation in my life. Situations such as family, relationships, health, work, financial, social and cultural became the ground on which I built my purpose.

There was a sense of freedom that overcame me when I realised that my life’s purpose was my choice. I had chosen my values and I was free to choose my purpose. By applying my values, I was fulfilling my purpose. I manifested my purpose.

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Four Ways to Handle a Complainer

Complaining is draining. It drains the life out of those who are forced to listen to it. Complaining also drains the complainer. Incessant complaining can transform the complainer and their audience into helpless victims. Complaining means blaming instead of taking on an equal share of responsibility for the problem. Blaming diminishes personal power, whereas taking personal responsibility can increase it.


Power returns instead of draining into the situation and those involved in it when you commit to finding a solution.

Blaming drains personal power. Taking on a fair share of responsibility for a problem tends to increase it. Image by Benno Poeder

For me, taking responsibility begins by supervising my complaints. When I decide to supervise my complaints, it’s becomes easier for me to take responsibility for them and their impact on how I feel. My complaints have the power to influence how I feel, so I end up feeling negative when I complain. My negative feelings affect my behaviour and performance in a negative way, but if I supervise my complaints, I have the potential to improve the way I experience my life. After all, it’s my life and I am responsible for the way I manage it.

There are four ways that I use to handle complaining. If I find myself complaining about a situation, I use it as a trigger to remind me to respond in one or more of the following ways:

  1. I can change the situation,
  2. I can change my perspective about it,
  3. I can accept the situation as it is, or
  4. I can leave the situation.

I can also use this approach if I find myself at the receiving end of a complainer. When I commit to one of these responses, my power flows back to me instead of draining into the situation and those involved in it.

Finding out how I change the situation, or how I change my perspective about it, or how I accept the situation, or how I leave the situation is the next step, but when I take responsibility for the problem, and I choose one of the four options to manage it, then my energy levels tend to go up. It gives me the boost I need to work out how to do what I need to do. Handling complaints begins when I decide to supervise them. This puts me in a position of personal power that eases me into taking responsibility for my role in the problem. It frees me up to choose one of four ways to manage the situation. Identifying how I will do that may be a challenge, but by taking responsibility and pursuing one option, I have regained my energy. Then how I do what I have chosen to do is often revealed to me.

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Good Luck is Hardly a Matter of Luck

Good luck is more than just a matter of luck. I believe it’s possible to create our own good fortune. I’m inclined to think that good luck has less to do with self-belief and more to do with the quality of our expectations. Positive expectations tend to produce better outcomes. Negative expectations tend to produce poor outcomes. Negative expectations feed self-sabotage.

Good luck is hardly a matter of luck

Good luck is not just a matter of luck. Good luck is a matter of good planning.

I arrived at the belief that it’s possible to generate our own good luck after I made a personal plan for good luck and then put it into action. Given the nature of my work, which encompasses the body, soul and spirit, I made my good luck plan holistic. I reasoned that if I could make a plan that satisfies my body, soul and spirit, and I implemented the plan, then I could expect to see the outcomes that I wanted.

And I did. A plan for good luck helped me to realise that good luck was possible. Having a plan for good luck encouraged me to expect good luck. Instead of expecting bad luck, I began to expect good luck. A plan for good luck helped to boost my self-esteem and self-belief. The more good luck I had, the easier it was for me to believe in my ability to create it. The more good luck I had, the less self sabotage kicked in.

A plan for good luck helped me to focus my body, soul and spirit on good luck. My plan for good luck trained me to acknowledge the negatives in life but focus on the positives. It taught me to be aware of the negatives so I could manage self-sabotage.

Good luck is hardly a matter of luck. Good luck should be a matter of planning. Good luck transpired because I planned for it. I expected good luck, so I was able to believe that good luck was possible. In the process, I managed to circumvent a great deal of self-sabotage. Once I had a plan for good luck I began to expect it to happen, because it was a part of my plan.

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